Would you stay ?

If he's so close with his mother, why didn't he want her involved in his life when he got married?

I saw your question in pregnancy. HELL NO I wouldn't stay. I wouldn't have married him in the first place if he was too chicken to tell his mother.

YOU are the family he CHOSE. She's merely the family he was born into. His choice is more important than an accident of birth.

I will repeat what I wrote in your other question:

You join this group and tell them what you just said. They have tons of experience with toxic in laws and weak husbands.

See, what you have is a mamma's boy and he is your real problem, it's not your MIL.  You can't make her like you, but your first priority is to make your DuH understand that YOU and your family are his first priority.  If he doesn't want to do that, then this is what your future looks like.  But like I said, follow the link and join the group.  They will tell you what to do and what NOT to do, they've been through it all before.

If I were you I would probably leave. I know that might sound extreme but if it has been years and he won't stand up for you, and won't go to counseling, things will never change.

I can tell you, from experience, yes...I would stay. My Husband's Mom does not like me, at all. She never has, and she never will. She can fake it at times, and so can I for that matter, but...bottom line is, she doesn't like me. She's been so hateful to me (and our kids) through the years, that now, I just don't care. She is who she is, and there's nothing I can do about it. Really, what it boils down to, in your relationship (and mine too for that matter) is that you married her baby, and NOBODY is good enough for him. She will always think that you aren't good enough for him, because he is so close to her. Now, it's worth it for you to stay with him, because y'all are married, and he needs to realize that you need to be priority #1 (easier said then done, I know) Y'all can make it through this, I know you can. I've been with my hubby for 14 years (married) and it's been worth it all along, Mom or not. Hang in there!

My_Guys, does your husband put you before or after his mother?

My MIL doesn't like me either. As a result, we don't see her. At all. My husband doesn't put up with her baloney. Not that I've said he can't see her; he can go whenever he wants. HE doesn't want to.

In Judaism, when a man gets married his loyalty is to his wife, first, his children then his parents and siblings. You need to sit him down and give him quotes from his mother and sisters that you feel are hurting you. He may not be aware of it and is wearing rose colored glasses. You also need to tell him that you come first. What happens when you go to your family? Is he put into similar circumstances? Try talking it out.

If I were you and I didn't want to divorce him, I would avoid his family. I would never go over to their house. I would tell my DH that go see your family yourself, I am not going. I would hope he mever invited thenm over to our house. Because I would go into my room and stay their tell they left, or I would leave the house and stay gone tell they left.

Or I would divorce him.

Complicated. It is more about your DH's relationship with MIL. It really isn't about you. But you cannot do anything about her behavior, nor his siblings. Since "they" have made it clear they have issues with displaced anger, let them be angry, but just know they are actually angry with him, not you; you catch their rudeness as a result of the fallout. If they are such drama mongers, then make yourself unavailable to their rudeness. If you choose to believe in God and read the Bible, it specifically states when a man and woman marry, they both leave their families to start their own family together as husband and wife. His mother sounds horrible, why would you want to be around them during holidays or any happy event. If it has been years and nothing has changed, then you change; start your own traditions of making your own plans to do things that are fun and don't include them. You cannot MAKE anybody like you. Best wishes.

leave not worth it tell him move w his Mom ...let me tell him for u haha