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im pregnant by a black man and found out hes married!

has anyone else been in this suituation as feel really lost i currently feel really shit and dont want him to have anything to do with baby any advice

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poppy172

Asked by poppy172 at 3:26 PM on Aug. 20, 2012 in Pregnancy

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  • So what kind of protection did the two of you use?
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 3:28 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • Why did his color seem so significant as to mention? How about 'I am pregnant by a married mad'?


    If you don't want him to have anything to do with the baby then cut communication, move and don't put a father's name on the BC.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 3:28 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • Sorry i have not been in that situation.


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    DJDNY

    Answer by DJDNY at 3:29 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • Unless you were impregnated by a black woman or by a purple man, exactly what does the race and gender have to do with your question?
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 3:29 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • Why is the color of his skin a big deal? My daughter is white and had 2 babies by black men. They're both gorgeous and couldn't love them more. If he wants involved with the baby you don't have much choice in the matter. The courts will side with him but willing to bet he won't because of the wife. They could however fight for custody and have a chance at winning.
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 3:30 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • So have him sign his rights over

    i too want to know what his being black has anything to do with it....
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:31 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • I also wondered what black has to do with anything, you obviously didn't care he was black while you were screwing him.
    amazinggrace83

    Answer by amazinggrace83 at 3:32 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • My advice is to know who you are sleeping with.
    He was good enough to invite him into your body but not good enough to know his child?

    You are confusing me and that may be because you yourself are angry and confused. That is understandable.
    Do you have some one to talk to face to face about this? Someone whose opinion you trust? If so go right now and talk to them even if you feel ashamed or stupid. Get over those feelings so you can do what is good for you and the child. For that you have to think clearly and know your options. BTW we have all felt stupid and ashamed at one time or another. We just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 3:33 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • well, tell him - he is the father, its wrong to not tell him.
    you should not have slept with him if you didnt know him that well
    and who cares what color he is?
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 3:35 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

  • Nope. The only married man I fuck is my husband.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 3:40 PM on Aug. 20, 2012

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