I have a family reunion in June. We have a family wedding (husband side) in October.
My hubby is currently deployed, and really wants to go to the wedding (which is in NY) when he gets home. I have a family reunion in June in NM (father is passed, so i'm the only one from him that is able to go). AND hubby wants to go back home for 2 weeks for a visit with everyone after he gets back also.
My question is...... we can't do all 3. He thinks its not fair that he can't go to the wedding, and I feel as if its not fair that I can't go to the reunion. I'm already not going to NY because of the prices. I have to take two kids with me to NM. And he is only taking one. And dont get me started about going home. Its not going to happen.
I don't know how to talk this out, or work it out. he really wants to go to ny and i really want to go to nm. more like need. my grandfather is turning 100.
I don't know what to do.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:10 PM on Feb. 5, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by ZaTa at 2:21 PM on Feb. 5, 2009
how long have you known about these trips? Have you been saving for them? I don't want to be rude, but we are military too and I know that we have 3 trips in just the next two months and can afford them. 2 of us and 2 kids. So I think you should be able to do all three. Let him go where he wants and you do your thing. Do you have to take both kids with you and does he have to take them with him? That would save money right there if you just visited alone. I know that's not ideal but it's better then not going at all. I think anyways.
Answer by Navymama at 2:22 PM on Feb. 5, 2009
Answer by Danielle720 at 2:22 PM on Feb. 5, 2009
I agree! You should go your separate way's. If you don't want to miss it, and he doesn't either..there's no harm in going it alone, just tell everyone why your there without him! They should understand.
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