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why doesnt she?

So i have been trying the cry it out method wiht my 7 m/o. During nap time she sleeps in her swing (she is congested and she sleeps better) sometimes she will fuss in there for all of 5 min and go right to sleep and sleep for a few hours. At night though, when i put her in her crib there is no giving up! She will scream bloody murder to a point where i feel if i let her go she will hurt herself or something and she wont sleep in her swing at night either....just continuous screaming, but if i lay her with me shes out like a light! any ideas as to why or how i can adjust it

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Asked by Kennadismom at 4:20 PM on Feb. 5, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • put a pillow under the mattress, the end where her head goes, so that there is some elavation if she's congested. as for the crying, you just gotta be consistant. maybe give her a shirt with your scent on it to help her. GL

    Answer by armywife43 at 4:22 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

  • CIO is cruel. Do YOU cry or talk for NO reason? Crying is a babies only form of communication, and if they're crying, there's a reason, whether it be food or that they just need a cuddle.

    Your dd is screaming because she NEEDS something.

    Read The No Cry Sleep Solution.

    When you signed up to be a mother, you signed up for less sleep.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:45 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

  • uh duhhh i know i signed up for no sleep, i was trying to help HER sleep better. i love cuddling with her....ass.

    Answer by Kennadismom at 7:14 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

  • I wasn't trying to be an ass....

    But how could you think CIO could make her sleep better?

    If you want her to sleep better, sleep with her, "duhhh"

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:15 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

  • I would definitely suggest co-sleeping. I'm really not trying to be rude, but letting a baby cry it out, IS kinda cruel. I second The No Cry Sleep Solution, by Elizabeth Pantley. It works wonders, it's a bit of work but it's worth it, and definitely worth doing the right thing for your baby.

    You said it yourself, when you lay her with you, she's out like a light. That's sad :( She is forced to scream her head of just because she wants her mommy. Baby's arent meant to be independent right off the bat, they need time, YEARS, a couple of them, to become independent enough to sleep on their own. All babies are different, but it sounds like yours needs you in order to sleep right now, and that's really okay!! You definitely wont regret it later. You only get this time with her ONCE, so take advantage of it and cuddle with her. You'll be amazed at how much it strengthens your bond to co-sleep.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:41 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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