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Is an adopted child legally obligated to help his bio family out with medical stuff

like if someone needs a bone marrow transplant or something

he is 31 now and we contacted him for the first time and explained our situation, he told us to stuff it...

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:24 PM on Aug. 26, 2012 in Adoption

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  • not at all. He's legally out of that family, in every way. Even if he wasn't- there's no medical law to force family members to donate body parts.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 4:25 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • No, of course not.
    texasgurl33

    Answer by texasgurl33 at 4:26 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • No! you gave him up and out went any obligation he had....
    older

    Answer by older at 4:28 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • Nobody is obligated to help. I would be a little offended if I was given up for adoption and then the only time the bio family felt compelled to contact me is when they wanted my help.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 4:30 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • so there's nothing we can do except ask him again
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:31 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • What exactly do you need from him. You said bone marrow or something. So what is it?
    texasgurl33

    Answer by texasgurl33 at 4:32 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • nope nor woudl he be legally obligated to help if he were still your child.
    thats alot to ask of someone already and then the expect it from him???
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 4:37 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • his real family (us) is in a situation where a family member needs something n the best chance is a family donor...dont wanta get into too many details.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:37 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • You can try to appeal to his softer side telling him that this is a gift that is so rare and that he would be helping someone that has nothing to do with the emotional toll he might be feeling from being given up for adoption. I would tread very carefully though, as pushing him may end up making him less likely to help. I can understand the bio family feeling pressure and despair when their best chance is not cooperative, however you can't make decisions for someone else. He is not obligated and considering the circumstances I can understand his first reaction.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 4:42 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

  • do you have a relationship with him at all?
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 4:45 PM on Aug. 26, 2012

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