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like if someone needs a bone marrow transplant or something
he is 31 now and we contacted him for the first time and explained our situation, he told us to stuff it...
Asked by Anonymous at 4:24 PM on Aug. 26, 2012 in Adoption
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 5:05 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Nobody is obligated to help. I would be a little offended if I was given up for adoption and then the only time the bio family felt compelled to contact me is when they wanted my help.
Answer by QuinnMae at 4:30 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by staciandababy at 4:25 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by Anonymous at 5:28 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by older at 4:28 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 4:37 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by ohwrite at 5:35 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by Anonymous at 7:13 AM on Aug. 28, 2012
You can try to appeal to his softer side telling him that this is a gift that is so rare and that he would be helping someone that has nothing to do with the emotional toll he might be feeling from being given up for adoption. I would tread very carefully though, as pushing him may end up making him less likely to help. I can understand the bio family feeling pressure and despair when their best chance is not cooperative, however you can't make decisions for someone else. He is not obligated and considering the circumstances I can understand his first reaction.
Answer by QuinnMae at 4:42 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 4:45 PM on Aug. 26, 2012
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