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My son is in the 8th grade and is doing okay so far,you know how it is when kids go back to school they are tired and not very excited whole heartedly about some of their teachers. Anyways at my sons school they have some box that has an assortment of recommendations. Anyone can put your name in the box,and I guess some people think my sons depressed,I can tell you 100% he is NOT depressed,in fact if anything he's mad at a few teachers who have marked him as a sluff when he wasn't. Some girl sitting behind him was poking him in the back and when he told her to stop she went and told the teacher that he called her a bitch. He says he didn't call her anything and the principle has been harrassing him. He says he was in the principles office for 35 minutes while the principle repeatedly asked the same question over and over again about why the teacher would mark him as a SLUFF and my son told him that he had no idea because he was there and in the class just like everybody else. Now they are crossing a line in my opinion my forcing him to take a depression class,that in my opinion they have no right to do.
If I'm just being overly sensitive please tell me,however I feel like their job is to educate my child they are not licensed therapists or anything in fact they are far from it,and who the hell has the right to do that? It's like someone coming up to your happy well adjusted self and saying "oh you must be depressed so we've chosen you to take part in a class even though we have no freaking clue how you really feel!!!
Answer by DreainCO at 9:57 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
Have him evaluated by is own doc ASAP... get a note saying depression is NOT the issue... make an appointment with the principal and guidance and layout all these concerns. YOU are your child's best advocate.... if you think they are reading things wrong by not paying attention to the things your son is telling you then YOU need to get in there and fight for him. The worst thing a school can do is take a child's voice away... so you need to be that voice!! Talk to them ASAP so this does not get out of hand!!!
Answer by Crafty26 at 9:59 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
I would also address the "labeling" issue... that's just inappropriate!
Answer by Crafty26 at 10:01 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
Answer by texasgurl33 at 10:05 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
I agree with Crafty. Have him evaluated by your own professionals and then bring a note. What kind of school will take a student's untrained diagnosis of depression and apply them to another student? This is just the school opening up a door for another kind of bullying. What if a bunch of catty girls went and said one of their peers was screwing the whole football team each week just to be bitchy little girls? Would they take that to heart and counsel an innocent girl - assuming that she is guilty just because some of her peers say so? That is one of the weakest ways to lead children I have ever heard. That's like CM giving us the DV button to allow us to police ourselves. LOL.
At best, it's lazy of the school to expect peers to diagnose other students.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:05 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
Answer by texasgurl33 at 10:08 AM on Aug. 30, 2012
Answer by adnilm at 10:14 AM on Aug. 30, 2012