Husband wants my daughter to move

I agree that making your daughter move out in order for you to fully support 2 more kids is absurd. I moved out at 17 I went to cellege while working 2 jobs. BUT when my child comes of age I want her to stay home as long as she is in school unless she goes out of state so that she can focus on school and not having to worry about bills

That's just messed up that he would even consider asking your daughter to leave so his can move in. That has years of emotional scarring written all over it. I haven't been through all of the responses so forgive me if it's already been addressed... but is there a way that you could all move to a bigger place? Or, perhaps encourage your daughter to attend college, if she's not going already, and that way she lives on campus but can still technically call the house her home. That would buy a few years for you to plan a move to a bigger house or maybe she may not want to move back after she's done with college, you never know. She benefits by getting an education that will help her find jobs better in the future and it allows him to spend time with his kids. Kind of a compromise. Tell her she's welcome to come back for summer break. It's the best temp fix I could think of.

Tell him they ONLY get to move in under these conditions:
1. You sell the current home and get a larger place.
2. ALL THREE GIRLS are working or going to school.
3. ALL THREE girls are PAYING RENT.

No, I wouldn't make my son pay rent... I was not raised that way. But it's the best compromise and maybe the only way you can afford a bigger place. But ALL THREE items must be in place.

Otherwise, CHECKMATE. Frankly, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.

rosehawk-Nobody should bow down to my daughter. Like I said the twins don't want to work or go to school. They said they don't think they should have to.
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Oh bullshit

Why did you ask this question when you don't give a crap about what anyone has to say?!?

Karma's going to eventually bite your ass over this.

idk

Did some of you miss that the aunt says that they can live there if they get jobs and they refused?


Damn this post got out of control. well if they refuse to be adults why should they be babied and given a free ride.

Sounds to me, like THEY WANT TO USE DADDY.

He signed "HIS RIGHTS AWAY"..........TRUE GUILT !!!!!!!

OP: Possibly think about going to a counselor with this issue to get some professional help. It seems like you and your husband may need someone to talk to both of you at the same time to help you work through this. This is a complex issue and you both might want to try to work together on this issue, instead of against each other. You have been married for 10 years and you don't want to just throw that away. This sounds like a topic where everyone is going to be extremely emotional and where you and your husband may need to listen to each other more than ever---children are so important, even older ones, and the two of you really need to be together on this issue. It sounds like there have been a lot of things that haven't been dealt with for both your husband and yourself so I really hope you get some help.

No your daughter shouldn't have to go but if he wants to provide for his he can buy a bigger house