Affairs

Uh, no. He was the selfish one.

You are not being selfish. An affair alone can be difficult if not impossible to get over, but an affair with a baby becomes even more complicated. He is the one who made a selfish choice. If there were issues in your marriage, he should have tried to work them out, or left, not had an affair. If there were no issues and he just has no self -control, then he's very self centered. Now he has to live with his decision.

I would look for a support divorce support group to help you through this, and maybe counseling for your daughter as well.

And, get a lawyer right away.

I'm so sorry, and good luck mama.

He is the one who is being selfish. Thinking he can have is cake and eat it too.
I hope you are looking for a good lawyer?

Nope, he is the selfish one. I never understood why people would rather cheat then either work on their problems, or leave before starting a new relationship. Plus an affair ending with a baby just makes things that much more complicated. I think you are doing the right thing.

Nope. You do what you gotta do. He didn't consider the damage he was doing to his marriage and family when he hopped in bed and screwed another woman. You owe him nothing. Get your child support order before the baby comes. That's about as selfish as I would recommend getting. He broke your trust and that is a huge part of the foundation of a successful relationship. If you can't get it back then there is no reason to drag things out.

No, you are not. I will never understand those women who stay after infidelity.

No you are not selfish.

Not at all. My DH knows cheating is something neither or us would deal with. He does it ONCE and he's gone. Period.

No, you are not being selfish. If you feel like you might give him a second chance, at least distance yourself from him and have some serious length of time before you make that decision. I can only imagine the overwhelming emotions you must be going through. But selfish? Come on, even Jesus understood divorce because of adultery.

Maybe a bit rash, but not one bit selfish. That is a long marriage, just make sure that you are really, truly done before you close that door. And if you go through with the divorce, do NOT sell yourself short on what you're entitled to from that marriage.