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I have been married to my dh for 15 years, will be in October. He has a lot of baggage from his childhood, divorced parents. We also have had our own problems over the last 15 years. I talked to his sister this morning and she says that all of the baggage from their parents marriage has effected how they became as adults, makes sense. I don't want my children to be like him in 20 years. He refuses to go to counseling. I am going myself, for me. It's not going to save our marriage though, as you know that takes two. Do I wait around and hope he will change his mind about counseling or go ahead and call it quits? My kids are 13, 11 and 9. The older 2 have even asked why I am still with him. When they were younger I thought If I could just deal with it until they were grown. But I know this isn't healthy for them either. Any advice?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:19 PM on Aug. 31, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by ohwrite at 12:25 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
It's hard to know the answer of whether you should stay or not, based on such little background. I mean: did he cheat?, is he abusive (verbal or physically)?, anger issues?, addiction? etc.
But, I will say that you sound like you're over it and ready to move on. So, if you no longer love him, then yes, it's time for it to be over.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:26 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 12:33 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
Then I'd leave if I were you. Mental abuse is just as bad as physical and will have a lasting affect on your children.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:33 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
Answer by wendythewriter at 12:34 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:36 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
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Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:56 PM on Aug. 31, 2012
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