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My entire life my parents, sister, boyfriend, etc always hid secrets, betreayed me, told me I was never good enough, left me out of things . . . Its caused me severe trust issues, insecurities and sadness that I always feeel im left out of everything. I have always tried to figure out why, as I feel like im not a bad person. I always wanted to have fun, make everyone feel welcome, happy, loved. . . Never overstepped boundaries, gossiped, caused issues. . I really think it was because I wasn't always so negative like all of those around me that they hated me.
Now I find myself 10 years into my marriage with a wonderful guy, and our relationship is in trouble because of all my fears and feelings of inadequacy. We started councelling and he is totally gamw and we are trying to figure everytning out, but learning how much I have ahead of me and how much pain and anger I am dealing with. . . Im feeling overwhelmed and depressed and very scared. It makes all my fears a million times worse. I accuse dh of things he hasn't done, feel paranoid all the time, hurt when he wants to spend time away from me. . . I know my feelings are wrong but I can't seem to push past it.
Im so afraid I will never get better, when all I want to do is be happy and keep my marriage. Has anyone ever had a traumatic childhood that effects their current life and have any success at getting past it, and how?
Please don't be mean. Im aware of my destructive behavior and am doong all I can oto fix everything.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:15 PM on Aug. 31, 2012 in Relationships
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