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I returned from a road trip recently from Texas with my parents to drop my sister off at College, and bought some scrapbooking supplies that I wouldn't be able to get locally easily (local scrapbooking stores dont carry the brands, and finding them at the prices I did elsewhere-like My Minds Eye at Ross is rare, plus I'm an hour away from Ross).
Neither my best friend, who I scrapbook with periodically, nor I can afford to stock up often, so I share when I can, even stuff I love. I gave her a Martha Stewart punch nearly new for her b-day b/c she REALLY wanted it, so it was her early b-day present. I've given her sheets of paper from favorite stacks here and there b/c she had less than me and I wanted to help her build her supplies a little, she's borrowed several cricut cartridges from me, etc.
The last 2 times from when I visited her were awkward for 2 reasons: first was wedding paper I'd found on clearance. I'd been looking for a looooong time for something I loved and could afford, and this stack by Paper Studio has 3 of each sheet. She asked for one of each design, and I answered "I'll finish my wedding album and what I dont use I'll let you have the rest of the stack." I don't know that I'll find that stack again, and I can barely afford my own scrapbooking supplies, much less someone else's. She said that if it was HER she would do that because she didn't think I'd use 3 of each paper and she knew it was hard to find (another reason I didn't want to share yet-I LOVE that paper and have no idea how much I'll need or not).
The second one was with halloween paper I'd picked up by Me and my Big Ideas because she'd asked for a couple different papers that I was thinking I'd probably use. She asked, and hinted several times about her layout idea and how other papers might not work, and kept going for several minutes, PLUS she ended up using 6 out of 48 papers. I felt like it was a little much but I was already so weary of politely trying to say "no" in the other situations I figured "oh well-gotta pick my battles"
I dont want her to think I'm selfish or dont want to share, but it seems she's going a bit far-I mean 6 papers out of 48???? I was comfortable sharing 2 or 3, but I needed that paper to last a few Halloween's (I dont take tons of Halloween pics, but I do like to scrap the ones I get).
How would you suggest saying "no" (in terms of how would you word it) firmly but nicely, to prevent butthurtness and curb her pushiness in the future? Sorry so long, and thanks!
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