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My best friend called me last night and told me that my husband of 8 years has been sending her private messages through yahoo messenger and asking her to do cam with him, to show him pictures of her private areas and her breasts. After she told me this I went through his archive and saw that he has been having "cyber" relations with various women. When I asked him about this he said that it is no cheating because he hasn't met them in person just talks to them online. Tho one women who is 22 by her profile (he is 52) was sending him messages saying "hey baby, when are we going to meet? I can't wait for you to do all those things to me that we talk about in chat" I looked at this girls picture and she is not even pretty. She looks about 100 pounds heavier than me and is not very good looking in the face. I just don't know what to think about this. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you ladies.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:54 AM on Sep. 4, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by kimigogo at 9:03 AM on Sep. 4, 2012
Here's the problem I would have with that, he doesn't feel that he's doing anything wrong. Now you could say that you feel like you need marriage counseling, but if he doesn't feel that what he is doing is wrong then it probably won't sink in and he may be resistant to seeing a therapist. Obviously there is a lack of communication between you.
If it were me, I would make an appointment to see a marriage counselor. I would tell him the day, time and place to be there and tell him that if he wants his marriage to stay together he will be there. Plan on going alone if he isn't willing. Nothing bad can come of you putting all of your feelings out and having someone help you sort them out. If my DH did that and refused therapy, I would probably keep seeing the therapist and make plans to leave with the kids.
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