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My ds11 has been acting very silly, annoying at times and talking back (but in a way he tries to get away with it) I am sometimes too tired to deal with him. He knows what buttons to push but half the time I just tell him he needs to stop and respect me or I will tell his dad.
I believe all kids feel more relaxed with mom oppose to their dad, but I need to do something now before it gets out of hand...oh and I do (we) believe in spanking but my spankings don't hurt at least that's what my ds says...I really don't want to hurt my kids but hey it worked for me and my sibling (yup good old fashion spankings)
Asked by Anonymous at 8:54 AM on Sep. 4, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)
I think your DS is past the point of spankings being effective. I would start taking privileges away. What things does he value the most? Freedom? Then he gets grounded. Socializing? He loses his phone / computer except for using it for homework. Privacy? Take his bedroom door off (this is sort of extreme and I have only seen a couple of instances where I thought this would be effective).
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:00 AM on Sep. 4, 2012
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Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 9:04 AM on Sep. 4, 2012
I try not to use the "wait 'til your father gets home" card. Too June Cleaver for me! lol :p I can usually nip it myself by letting them know when they've crossed the line. A firm "I mean it!" usually does the trick. If it doesn't, then I'm w/ QuinnMae about taking away privileges. I'd like to also add that an earlier bed time to someone at this age is also an effective deterrent. Be strong & be consistent. But don't lose your sense of humor altogether. :)
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