Last night, DH and I were having a conversation about our computers and he brought up the fact that he has hours of old raw digital video from years ago of his kids when they were young as well as video of these trips he took with his ex wife to Paris. He said if he had the time, he'd create movies by editing with music, beautiful wipes, etc. I asked him if he actually wanted to do this with these trips he took alone with his ex. He said, yes - these are his memories and they are important to him but he just doesn't have the time but will have to wait till he retires.
I told him I didn't mind him doing this with the video of his kids, but it bothered me that he still had the desire to look at, manipulate and create these romantic vignettes of his life with his ex. That it upset me. He got distant and bothered that it bothered me.
I'm wondering if he is still in love with her and not over her. We are in our 50s. True, he was married to her for 25 years and she left him for another man. We've been together for 6 years - married for 4. He tells me he is over her. But this makes me wonder. He treats me well otherwise but this just makes me feel sad that I'm second fiddle.
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