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He had gone to a few website a year ago, with pics of female bodies/boobs, etc. and I spoke to him about the dangers of internet porn, etc. Continued with discussion about sex, curiosity, normal stuff vs. not normal (porn). He promised to not go to these sites anymore. He is sought out by girls in his class, very athletic and attractive, and has a girlfriend...very limited get togethers per our request.
So, after work yesterday, since he was home alone for almost 3 hours, I looked at the computer history and saw links (followed them) to TUMBLR which is an annoying "diarrhea of the teenage mind in photos" website. The link was to someone's page of sexual postures, photos of penetration and people engaged in a few forms of sex. Not videos, but I'm NOT HAPPY! So, I calmly asked him why he went there, especially after our discussion and his promise, and what we are going to do about it. Turns out his older sister, now 18 and not home, had left this open once (she spent way too much time on TUMBLR and I did address it) and he got an eyeful...and admits he can't stop himself, even thought he knows it's wrong. Goes there a couple afternoons a week or so he said. My alarm goes off and so I said, I can help you with this by locking the computer when I am not home. Then we had an hour long discussion about sex, age appropriateness, limits, hormones, and what HE thinks about it. Knows what he wants to do in life, go to college etc., says he's not stupid enough to have sex with all the risks, and wants to be really good friends with his girlfriend. I even explained how to use a condom and he kind of cut me off because he is obviously not ready to actually use one. He is in health class now and they are right about to cover the sex/birth control/abstinence thing.
He also said he feels like I don't tell him enough, because everyone at school is laughing at things/jokes he doesn't understand...? Like a joke about BJ's...which is a shopping warehouse in this area,. Again, I explained the double entendre. I added that maybe they watch different stuff on TV...he said yeah, like SouthPark. I've never watched this, although he's seen suggestive material via other sitcoms. Please give your thoughts if you've had to handle this internet stuff, or you are just trying to raise a kid with good values/morals in an R rated world. What am I missing telling him?
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