cont...and another thing I do with my son that has worked is to count...but backwards from 5 to 1. When I started this, I would tell him what I wanted him to do, give the consequence, and then count backwards. By 1, I would follow through on the consequence. Now, after two years of this, all I have to do is count from 5 to 1 - sometimes FAST if I need his immediate attention, and sometimes slow if I know he's tired or is going to have a hard time listening. I try to adjust according to the situation. Oh...and one great consequence to use at this age is "you can do it yourself or I can help you do it." This touches on a child's natural desire to do things by themselves, but sometimes, we just need to help them do it! Good luck!
at 10:41 PM on Feb. 6, 2009