I need advice on my daughter. She says that she does not like material objects or money. She gives her birthday/Christmas money and her stuff away and does not take care of it. Today, I let her use my computer and she got an error and a virus and she did not tell me, or care about it, or even apologize. She just does not have respect for material objects, and she is rather proud of it. Thankfully I ran a scan and got rid of it. I am confused as to weather I should have respect her for being non-materialistic, or if I should do anything.
Answer by Zakysmommy at 10:24 AM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by hannahwill at 11:35 PM on Feb. 6, 2009
Well, it's one thing to not be materialistic and quite another to not appreciate or respect her own or other's material things. If she doesn't care about them, then just don't give her anything else, but tell her you expect her to be responsible with what she already has. Also, she needs to be made to understand that she is to respect things that belong to others. If she doesn't then don't let her use your things.
Answer by BlessedMommy64 at 11:36 PM on Feb. 6, 2009
Answer by happymom0724 at 11:39 PM on Feb. 6, 2009
Answer by felicia0923 at 12:01 AM on Feb. 7, 2009
Answer by callmeann at 12:09 AM on Feb. 7, 2009
If she gives her stuff away, or doesn't take care of it and then tells you she needs more, I would just remind her that you bought it once, she chose not to keep it or take care of it or whatever, and inform her that she will have to figure out how to get by without it or buy it herself with her own money. Kids learn how to treat people and things by what they allowed to get away with. If you don't like the behavior, nip it immediately and let her know it's not gonna be tolerated. She needs to know that there is an appropriate way to behave and until she learns to behave respectfully, she needs to be on a "very short leash" otherwise, it will just get worse.
Answer by BlessedMommy64 at 12:21 AM on Feb. 7, 2009
Your daughter needs to show others material objects with respect. I would not allow my daughter to use the computer for a while. If things were not just given to her maybe she would care a little more of material objects. In a way it's nice your daughter is happy with what she has and does not feel like she needs to keep up with her peers. She should however show you appreciation and take care of your property.
Answer by mommiedear at 2:46 AM on Feb. 7, 2009
Answer by shazrina at 6:24 AM on Feb. 7, 2009
Answer by .Peaches. at 6:04 PM on Feb. 7, 2009