Discipline needs to vary based on what the behavior is. Talking is appropriate sometimes, time outs (or think times), do-overs, re-direction still works at this age, choices, gentle physical direction, and so on. A couple of things to keep in mind - when talking to your son, make sure you both maintain eye contact. If you make a request, have him repeat it back so that you know he heard you. Break down complicated requests into pieces and give him choices whenever possible (do you want to put away your toys first or your clothes first?) Find what motivates him - generally, anything that leads to his own independence (aka becoming a big boy) will motivate a child - so give him choices to do things by himself or to have you help him. Praise the good behavior when you catch him at it and practice good behavior you want him to learn but hasn't attained yet. Be patient, it takes a lot of repeating before he'll catch on.
at 1:37 PM on Feb. 7, 2009