I am living with my fiance of 7 years and my 18 year old has came back home after bootcamp. He'll be leaving for school the end of summer. Its been tuff.. alot of friction. He says my son is too quiet, dont try to talk to him (he's quiet and fiance sees it as rude) and he says that he should automatically help out more even without being asked... and should he pay board??? Sorry for all the areas, just need advice. ThanksAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:35 PM on Feb. 7, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by MamaChamp at 6:38 PM on Feb. 7, 2009
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Answer by HeatherTurner at 9:52 PM on Feb. 7, 2009
Maybe it bothers him to see his mom shacked up (if it were a friend he may just see it as living together--but your ARE his mom:-) with a guy and he doesn't want to express that to you. Sons can be that way with their moms:-) I would not charge him rent since he isn't there but for a little while. ENJOY him as much as you can because you never know what his future holds. Your SO should mature a bit and honor your relationship with your son. And he should perhaps make a better effort at getting to know your son and not just "judge" him as rude. Yes, he should help out but he may be wondering --am I a guest or family member--it may be a bit confusing for him. Just ask him to do some of the chores. Hopefully he learned some responsibility in boot camp and won't have a problem with it. But talk to him about it:-)
Answer by Anonymous at 10:19 PM on Feb. 7, 2009
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Answer by chyna_doll at 10:41 PM on Feb. 7, 2009
You are asking for trouble. He is already over stepping his boundaries. Who is he to tell you anything about your son? He is just another man. Not his father. Easily replaced. It doesn't matter how long he's been in your life. I'd put him in his place or put him out.
And I could never charge my child board. He's my child. I support him, he doesn't support me.
Answer by Chrissy629 at 6:38 AM on Feb. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:37 PM on Feb. 8, 2009