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Curious...would you ever date your best friend's ex?

Could you do it? Would you? Would you ask for permission from her first to see how she feels about it? Would it matter if they separated 20 years ago?

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texasgurl33

Asked by texasgurl33 at 12:19 PM on Sep. 24, 2012 in Relationships

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  • No, I think there's a certain code of honor when it comes to friends, or relatives ex's. Even if they said it wouldn't bother them, I'd be afraid it would. And as your relationship develops with a guy, your more likely to hear things about your friend and have your loyalty divided.

    Not to mention the weird factor of sleeping with the same guy.....and time doesn't really change that for me.
    ohwrite

    Answer by ohwrite at 12:22 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • Ex boyfriend... yes and I married him too.
    Ex husband it would never cross my mind.

    I suppose it would depend on her feelings and how much you value her friendship.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:22 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • hmm..it depends on which bff and which ex we're talking about. however, knowing my girls, i would not be attracted to any they'd find attractive in the first place.
    dullscissors

    Answer by dullscissors at 12:24 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • um ex boyfriend? 20 yrs?Depends on why they separated. Ex husband? No way.
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:25 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • No husband or boyfriend, they are still my BFF's ex.
    txnmomof4

    Answer by txnmomof4 at 12:28 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • nope, thats not being a friend at all in my book.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 12:35 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • nope
    eww
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 12:47 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • Ew no,she has terrible taste in guys
    Also, i think that would be weird for all
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:13 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • I dated a girlfriends EX once. A long time ago. They broke up a year before. She said it was ok. But I think it did bother her. We didn't see each other long.
    Depends on the situation really. If they have kids together or not? How long they were together? How long they were broke up or divorced?
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 1:31 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

  • Could you do it? I don't think so.
    Would you? Probably not.
    Would you ask for permission from her first to see how she feels about it? Yes, if it was a recent breakup.
    Would it matter if they separated 20 years ago? If it was 20 years ago I would still mention it to her, but not ask permission.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 1:54 PM on Sep. 24, 2012

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