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How do you move on??

When your DH or DF says something or does something sooo terrible that it just cuts you to the core and you really do love them, but everytime you look at them you think about what they said or done and it just makes you want to disconnect emotionally from them. How do you fix this?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:21 PM on Feb. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (6)
  • First off words only hurt when you allow them to, point out to him how rude and what a bastard he is being ,see how he would like being addressed in the manner he spoke to you. The best way to move on is lose your give a damn and just get right back with him. Men will run all over you if you allow it. Tell him if he loves you he wouldn't make attempts to hurt you like that and maybe he needs to rethink how he worded what he said that cut you..
    1countrygal

    Answer by 1countrygal at 11:25 PM on Feb. 7, 2009

  • It starts with you . For instance why is it bothering you did he cheat sometimes not even the strongest can get past that if it is something dumb and insensitive of that he did then you have to confront him and talk it out or you will let it eat at you forever talk talk talk he will never know truly how it hurts unless you go thru it with him he has to help you get thru it .
    mom2_3blessings

    Answer by mom2_3blessings at 10:31 PM on Feb. 7, 2009

  • You have to learn to forgive but never forget. If you forget that gives him the feeling that it's ok to do it again. But knowing that you remember it makes him try to be better and work hard to deserve your forgiveness. If it's something that you can't forgive then it's up to you on how to fix it. I've learned from experience that you need God in order to forgive the hard stuff
    Momma2beauties

    Answer by Momma2beauties at 11:23 PM on Feb. 7, 2009

  • I fixed it by leaving. If someone really loved you back they wouldn't say such hurtful things. I decided I wanted to be loved back and left.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:06 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

  • u don't fix it unless both parties r willing to fix it.
    spazz1007

    Answer by spazz1007 at 2:50 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

  • It takes two people to be willing to fix a problem. The only person you can fix is yourself. Obviously, you still care for him and value his opinion of you more than your own. I'd say you've got some work to do in counseling on yourself. Reclaim the judge's gavel that you gave to him.
    Ewadun

    Answer by Ewadun at 4:39 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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