I have had a lot of body image issues since i had children. I am used to being thin at around 120 pounds most of my life, i had a daughter gained weight (before i met hubby) i lost a ton of weight and was back to 120 when i met my husband, i felt confident and beautiful from losing all of the weight, i had a few stretch marks but nothing major for the most part i felt beautiful and sexy with him.
I got pregnant and had a stillborn, i gained about 30 lb with that pregnancy and lost about ten of it then i got pregnant a few months later, i gained 29 more pounds. By the time i was threw with both pregnancies so close i had gotten up to 197 when my last son was born. I lost a lot of weight in the past 10 months, i am now down to 133 not great but not as fat.
THE PROBLEM IS...My husband is not turned on by me anymore we haven't had sex in a long time i have loose skin on my tummy and my breasts have went from DD to a C my thighs also have a little extra skin, my hips are wider i am still in a size 6 jeans :( i look chubby and out of shape in my tummy even though my arms and legs are now really toned, and i can't seem to lose anymore. He makes comments on things like "should you really eat that?" and just says other things, calls me puff and stuff and he says he is just kidding but it hurts my feelings and now i have bad self esteem issues worse then before, i don't like having the lights on during sex or anything luckily we aren't having sex much anymore which is a relief to me because it leaves me feeling ugly and half the time i feel bad afterwards :(
Am i nuts to feel this bad about something as silly as sex?
sorry so long
Asked by Anonymous at 1:51 PM on Sep. 27, 2012 in Relationships
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