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My daughter is 3 she will be 4 next month and she hasn't seen her bio father since she was 1. She only knows my boyfriend as her father he's been raising her since she was 7 months old. He wants to adopt her and see's her as his daughter, he cares for her, supports her, and insures her. Her bio father doesn't pay support and has no contact with us.
How and when do we tell her, I don't want to wait to long and have her be angry with us. I also don't want to say the wrong thing and her to think he didn't want her or love her. I needed to protect her and myself by getting away from him and his family.They aren't good people so I cut all contact and moved an hour away. I did change her last name from his to mine and he is not on the birth certificate , so she might ask about that once she starts school since her sisters last name is my boyfriends and her's is mine.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:35 PM on Oct. 4, 2012 in General Parenting
Answer by Izsarejman at 4:42 PM on Oct. 4, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 4:44 PM on Oct. 4, 2012
I would not make it a big deal. I would be honest and tell her that you boyfriend is going to adopt her and make her legally her dad. Then just tell her again when she asks later. That way it is NOT a secret. Secrets are destructive.
Answer by booklover545 at 5:00 PM on Oct. 4, 2012
Answer by Anonymous at 1:04 PM on Oct. 5, 2012
Answer by hotelmom123 at 3:41 PM on Oct. 5, 2012