He called them mom and dad. I went off to college and to lead a “normal” life. “baby” is now 18 years old. We recently told him the truth.He is confused. Now I feel our relationship is awkward. He went from seeing me as his older sister to his biological mother. He says that he feels weird calling my mom “mom” when she is biologically his grandmother. He has called her mom his entire life. He hasn’t called me “mom”, but I have heard him refer to me as his mom when he was on the phone with friends. I am not comfortable with it.It feels really unnatural and unfair to my mom who has raised him. I, now, am married with a baby. Nobody in my life know about this situation. I am highly educated and have a nice life .I am just confused on how to proceed with my life. Do I tell all of my friends and in-laws?I am just being honest when I say I fear being judged and criticized. I could really use some insight.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:55 PM on Feb. 8, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 PM on Feb. 8, 2009
Wow...that's huge. I don't really have any advice for you other than to be honest about things. Good luck. I was a teen mom once. I wasn't in your situation, but I totally sympathsize with you. I don't see any reason to share this with all of your friends since it's a private family matter. I'm assuming your husband knows and accepts this tho. If he doesn't know, yes, you should tell him.
Answer by momjoy1027 at 12:02 AM on Feb. 9, 2009
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Answer by Chandra034 at 12:30 AM on Feb. 9, 2009
May I ask why your son was told? I know it isn't any of my business I'm just curious. I personally wouldn't say anything unless someone hears about it. How does your mom feel about her/your child now calling you mom? She did raise him for 18 years so I'm guessing that she feels like his mother not his grandmother. I was 15 the first time I got pregnant but I wound up losing the baby at 3 months gestation, so I can't judge you for being very adult in bringing a baby into the world and then letting your parents raise him. You gave him a life that all of you can be proud of. Let your son/brother be the one to make the decision on whether or not people should be told. Also he needs to take every one's feelings into account not just his own. Lots of luck and God Bless.
Answer by BooBear666 at 1:10 AM on Feb. 9, 2009
Thank you for your answer. He was told b/c our family agreed that it was his right to know the truth. We were afraid that he would find out one day. We would rather he hear it from us. I am very grateful for the responses. The insight is invaluable.
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