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Double standard?

Instead of taking that accountability question off topic.

Why is it a man has no say in whether a baby is born, but also has no say in paying child support? He cannot make the mother have the baby if she doesn't want it, but she can make him pay for it if he doesn't want it.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:00 AM on Feb. 9, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

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Answers (25)
  • Yes it's a double standard. If abortion is an issue, he should be able to sign a paper taking no responsibility if she refuses to abort and she cannot be eligible for any form of welfare.

    It's just as much her choice to have sex as it is his!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:19 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • Well, if a man doesn't want the responsibility of a child, he should either not have sex or take serious precautions when he does.....and that may include only being with someone he knows and trusts.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:06 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • yea its wrong.. but he doesnt have to carry the baby and give birth, he also doesnt have to be there for the child... he can leave...
    JuLiAnSmOmMy317

    Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 12:14 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • he can leave...

    Not really. One guy I know got hit with a subpoena years after his gf moved out of state. Turns out he was a dad, didn't even know, but the state and her new husband expected back child support.

    Personally, I think it's just one more argument for abstinence, but people will still find ways to rationalize it away.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 12:20 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • thats true, i never thought about that
    aliciatron

    Answer by aliciatron at 12:23 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • He (and she)- made their choice when they had sex. Any sex can lead to a child. A man makes his choice at that time, even if he isn't thinking *that way* about the encounter, that is biology. She has a lot more involved in carrying a pregnancy to term- and so it is only fair that ultimately the final decision is hers...
    mtnmama111

    Answer by mtnmama111 at 12:23 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • I agree 100% with anon 9:19
    hautemama83

    Answer by hautemama83 at 12:31 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • I think that if you are going to have sex with whoever, whenever then it's something that you have to deal with.
    Why shouldn't he have to share in the responsibility. How many women out there get pregnant unexpectadely and have to do it all on their own because the guy will own no part of his responsibility?
    God made sex to be shared and enjoyed between married couples. Children are a blessing that comes from those lovely, intimate moments together.
    Have sex wisely!
    AmandaH321

    Answer by AmandaH321 at 12:31 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • Well this is a problem because many people choose not to do the right thing and marry someone they love BEFORE having the child. If they were married it wouldn't be a issue. But I do feel a man should be able to sign away his rights ONCE and the woman should be able to make one mistake as well. I feel that if a person isn't married and they have another kid they should either be sterilized or not able to claim welfare period. Kids don't just happen and people who know they can't afford one on their own should be forced to be more responsible when it comes to this issue.

    SylviaNCali

    Answer by SylviaNCali at 2:32 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

  • Well, if a man doesn't want the responsibility of a child, he should either not have sex or take serious precautions when he does.....and that may include only being with someone he knows and trusts.

    Same for a woman. If she does not want a baby she should close her damn legs.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:39 AM on Feb. 9, 2009

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