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Did this boy waste 12 yrs of his life?

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The mother of a gay California Boy Scout denied an Eagle award because of his sexual orientation is fighting to overturn the decision before he turns 18, the cut-off date for the organization's highest honor.

Ryan Andresen's mother, Karen, said the scoutmaster of his Troop 212 in Moraga, a San Francisco suburb, had refused to grant Eagle status to Ryan, who has been a scout since age 6, even though he met the requirements.

"His last words were I'd rather resign than sign," Andresen told Reuters.

A petition launched by Andresen on, an Internet social change platform, calls on his troop to reject the Boy Scouts of America's discriminatory policy against gays and give the California teenager his Eagle rank.

More than 200,000 people had signed the petition by late Friday.

Andresen said her son was staying with friends to avoid publicity, but plans to appear next week on the TV show "Ellen," which is hosted by comedian Ellen DeGeneres and often discusses gay-rights issues.

Andresen said Ryan had been victim of bullying in his troop, and chose as his final Eagle project to create at a local school what he called the "tolerance wall" - a collection of 288 tiles painted by elementary school students depicting acts of kindness.

Ryan surprised even his parents when he came out publicly as gay in July in a mass letter to the troop in which he stood up for another scout who was bullied, Andresen said.

According to its website, the troop is sponsored by a local Presbyterian church and counts more than 75 active members aged 11 to 18. The scoutmaster, listed on the website as Rainer Del Valle, did not respond to an email from Reuters for comment.

Boy Scouts of America spokesman Deron Smith indicated in a statement that Andresen's Boy Scouts membership had been revoked.

"This scout proactively notified his unit leadership and Eagle Scout counselor that he does not agree to scouting's principle of "duty to God" and does not meet scouting's membership standard on sexual orientation," the statement said.

The Boy Scouts of America has come under public pressure on the issue since May when an Ohio lesbian, who was suddenly ejected from her troop, started a petition on for her reinstatement and an overhaul of the anti-gay policy.

Subsequently, two Boy Scouts board members, the CEOs of telecoms company AT&T and accounting firm Ernst&Young, have spoken out against the discrimination. In September, computer chip-maker Intel, the Boy Scouts of America's biggest corporate donor, withdrew its support for the organization, which has about 2.7 million members.

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Asked by gmasboy at 1:22 PM on Oct. 6, 2012 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • It's bullshit, that poor kid. He did lose twelve years of success and its wrong

    Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 1:28 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • I signed the petition to get his Eagle Scout recognition

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:36 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • I am appalled that his sexual orientation would even be considered in a situation like this because it has absolutely NO bearing. Disgusting.

    Answer by winterglow at 1:38 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • I suspect the Spiral Scouts will contact him (if they haven't already). They gave their highest level badge to any Eagle Scout who gave back their badges in protest of the anti-gay rule.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 3:08 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • I signed, sad....

    Answer by older at 4:10 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • Sad, he's honored for his anti-bullying work and, then bullied for being gay by those who previously honored him.

    Answer by 3libras at 5:35 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • I'm honestly surprised this is even legal.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 6:32 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • shows what a great oganization the BSA is...they arent teaching young men to discriminate AT ALL (note the heavy sarcasm).

    why some ppl choose to remain blind to the BSA's hate is baffling. especially, since they think his homosexuality is somehow him not having a "duty to God". sad...

    Answer by okmanders at 7:12 PM on Oct. 6, 2012

  • Why would he have wasted 12 years of his life? Is the be all end all the trophy? Did he not do good things, pick up new skills, give selflessly? So no, not a waste.
    What Boy Scouts did was wrong. That sort of discrimination was wrong. Coming out to the organization knowing that they hold such stringent beliefs, right before you are awarded your Eagle Scout status was stupid and I'm pretty sure he knew what he was doing and had a handle on the consequences.
    But his sexual orientation should not be a factor as a scout

    Answer by adnilm at 9:26 AM on Oct. 7, 2012

  • Such a good way to teach respect and honor for others, don't ya think. Not.

    I do have to agree with adnilm about not wasting those 12 years if he learned valuable skills during those years.

    Answer by SpiritedWitch at 9:42 AM on Oct. 7, 2012

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