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This is an extremely controverial subject. Let me first say, that if you know or knew any victims to bullies or lost loved ones to bullies, I am very sorry for your loss and truly wish things could be different for all those involved. Being bullied is horrendous! I personally was never bullied,(still picked on a times) but my husband was and feels very strongly about it. He was kicked out of school for fighting back and placed in a charter school by his parents. What would you do if your kid(s) were bullied? Would you take them out of school right away? Or teach them to fight back? (regardless of the school's rules). Do you think you can do anything to prevent your child from being bullied in the first place?
The bullies side. (This is not meant to offend anyone, by any means). I know there is alot being done now to prevent and stop bullying (about time!) I also don't think there are any excuses, at all, for bullying. and all bullies should be punished for their actions. But what would you do if your child was the bully? What could you do to prevent this? In certain cases can bully's be seen as victims as well? These are just a serious of questions I ponder a times.
My opinon: I would never, ever, ever want my daughter to be bullied or be a bully. But I strongly believe in standing up for yourself (something I could never do) so I want to make sure my daughter can by all means. So I'm on the edge between taking her out of school or letting her fight back if the time ever comes (hopefully not). I don't know what I would do to prevent it from happening, just hope she will have the self-confidence she needs, I also would punish her accordingly if she ever bullied anyone, and teach her to be kind and generous to others regardless of their flaws to prevent her from being the bully.
Answer by AmaliaD at 4:49 PM on Oct. 11, 2012
If the school is failing to stop the bullying, then I would take her & her tax $$ out of that school & place her somewhere else. If she was being the bully, I would put a stop to it immediately. That being said, there is a girl in her class, who if someone disagrees w/ her, or she doesn't get her way, she accuses them of being a bully. Luckily it hasn't became a serious matter yet, but if my child is falsely accused by this girl, I will set the record straight. I believe in teaching a child the necessary skills to defend themselves, verbally & physically. I won't raise a victim, only a survivor!
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