My daughter is 18 and has a boyfriend that she has know for 7 years and he still lives 3 states away, where we moved away from 3 years ago.
My daughter decided that she wants to be a doctor eventually and had made plans to attend a local college and med school. Just before Christmas her boyfriend said he would move down here to be with her. He is 19 and has not had any desire to go to college. He came down to visit for Xmas and then she went home with him and stayed for 3 weeks with him and his single mother. Now suddenly she wants to move to his hometown and go to school up there and live with her boyfriend and his mother. I have talked to her and she is determined to do this! Has anyone here been is a similar situation? How did it turn out? Can you offer any advice on the best way to handle it.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:00 PM on Feb. 9, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by DDry at 1:03 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by gemgem at 1:04 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by AuntieM at 1:06 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by Farrahann at 1:06 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by Farrahann at 1:09 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
I agree with AuntieM 100% on everything. I guess the part that got me was :stayed for 3 weeks with him and his single mother. Does this part really factor into the situation?
My advice: Let her learn on her own and if she makes a mistake , its her mistake to fix. Support her emotionally, and let the rest take care of tself. The more you say, the more she is going to dig her heels in, just because you tell her not too. Even if she is 18 they still have some growing up to do, and some isn't all that grand.We bring them up to make good choices, and any choice she makes now is her own and for her to live with.
Answer by Kat122 at 5:13 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:14 PM on Feb. 9, 2009
my daughter just turned 18 and will be going off to college this summer. I am very sad, but happy also. I think what bothers you the most is that you want her to be closer to home so you can spend more time with her. If so, those feelings are totally normal! Its called empty nest as you well know. Bottom line, you are going to miss her regardless of her choices, best to just try and have a great relationship far away than none at all. I am sure she will call you daily, especially if you support her. Dont give her advice unless she asks for it. Pray that you have done well with her and let her fly!!! Be strong for her as you have always been, she'll be back mom!!! God Bless! Pepperann
Answer by pepperannrocks at 10:24 AM on Feb. 10, 2009
Answer by BayouGirlnOK at 6:25 PM on Feb. 10, 2009
Answer by john2007 at 11:45 AM on Feb. 12, 2009