So, lately there has been alot of hostility in DH's family, and we have indirectly gotten tangled in it. Cant decide if I should step back and untangle myself, or stand by BIL's side. My younger BIL is super immature, he met a girl a year ago, and a few months ago found out they were pregnant. She demanded he start acting like a man, get a car, stop blowing his money. He got upset and cried to MIL about how mean she was being. I agreed with the GF. He is in his 20's! Time to man up! Well, MIL decided to "go off" on the girlfriend while BIL was on the phone with her, meaning she could not defend herself to MIL, just had to listen. So, a few days later, she wrote her an email defending herself. MIL basically said you dont give people you love ultimatums, and she was only good for p*ssy. I dont see the problem with what GF did, she did what we all have been doing for years!! Guess what? He got mad at his mom, moved out, and had enough saved to get a car! All because GF gave him that ultimatum! Now MIL is upset with all of us, and so is older BIL. I think MIL should apologize for her actions, as she treated me the same way, and I am very close to BIL's girlfriend...I love her like my own sister. Anyways, dont know if I should continue to stand beside them in this, or just back off. It's not my mess, BUT it's about time the family stood up to MIL, she has caused her fair share of problems in all of our lives.....I think it's time somebody demand she own up to it, and BIL's girlfriend is doing an amazing job of putting her in her place, while still maintaining class and maturity...need advice and just to vent a little TIAAnswer Question
Answer by adnilm at 9:50 AM on Oct. 11, 2012
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Answer by kimigogo at 10:11 AM on Oct. 11, 2012
I think you should proceed with caution. First off, it doesn't sound like your BIL's GF needs you to support her. She seems to have a good handle on things as of now. BIL is having to look at his life and decide what is important to him. He chose GF, time for MIL to let go of her baby just a little. She sounds controlling and doesn't like the competition. BIL is asserting his decisions as an adult and this is a stand off that he and MIL need to have. Alone. I say hold back unless they need reinforcement.
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