Shouldn't your spouse love you whether or not you have sex. Sex is for reproducing. We have one child who is 10 months old, we haven't had sex since right before i found out i was pregnant. Why is this so bad ? I just don't get it. I do not feel any closer to my husband after sex than i did before we had sex. I mean you just lay there with someone and get used for fun then go to sleep i'm not sure how that is influencing the importance of a relationship.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:58 PM on Oct. 12, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by RyansMom001 at 2:20 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
Answer by booklover545 at 2:20 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
I think it really depends on the couple. Most men are physically needy. This is how they feel loved by their partner. Same for women. We all have ways that we interpret love from our partners, the key is figuring out each other's needs and making sure that we fulfill them in ways that make them feel loved, and vice versa. If your DH and you don't have sex often and you are both okay with that, then maybe he interprets love from you in words of affirmation, or you doing nice things for him.
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:22 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
It's whatever works for you and your DH. As long as you are on the same page, normal is whatever you both are good with.
I recently heard (yes- gossip) about a woman that was divorcing her husband. Their entire marriage (over 20 years) they went without sex. They had two children, both of which were conceived through IVF. The husband was just not interested in having sex. At all. He loved his wife and everything about their life together, he just didn't have a physical need to have sex with her or anyone else. She seemed okay with it for a long time, but as her kids got older she realized that she wanted more and desired a physical connection with her husband. He gave her permission to find sex elsewhere. Just sex. They would stay married. She met someone primarily for a physical relationship and fell in love with him. Left her husband and is moving on with the new guy.
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:34 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 2:35 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
So communication is key and as long as you are both on the same page of what you need out of your marriage and from each other, then you both can determine what is normal for you as a couple.
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:35 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
Answer by Dardenella at 2:36 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
Answer by ABeaverhausen at 2:37 PM on Oct. 12, 2012
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