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Is it really so wrong?

Alittle background on the situation: I am a part-time employee and I was living with my parents. My dad ended up having to have surgery and collected a lot of medical bills. So my parents had to go where rent was cheaper which also meant a small place. So I began looking for apartments that was income based even explained my situation and they said they would put me a on a waiting list. I kept contacting them but never was to me yet. So by the time my parents was moving I had no apartment. So my boyfriend asked me and my son to move in with him and I did..... Well I have no clue how many people have told me that thats not right we aren't married so we shouldn't be living together and that we are pretty much going to hell. So my question is: IS it really so wrong for me to be living with him? I don't think so but would like some of your ladies opinions.

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Asked by Vivian0331 at 4:14 PM on Oct. 12, 2012 in Relationships

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  • I"d assume these people who are telling you that you are going to hell for this, claim to be Christians....sad those are exactly the kind of people who give Christians a bad name! Everyone has sinned and sins all the time! No one has the right to judge you especially those claiming to be Christian. You do what you feel is best for you and your child.

    Answer by robyann at 9:56 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • It is your business and your decision. I would not do that and I hope my daughter never does that.

    Answer by booklover545 at 5:01 PM on Oct. 13, 2012

  • Thanks ladies and he is great with my son. He's always doing things to help out.

    Comment by Vivian0331 (original poster) at 10:05 AM on Oct. 13, 2012

  • "Wrong" is a purely subjective notion. What is wrong for one may be right for another.

    I think you should stop listening to these people. After all, it really is none of their business. You made your decision. Are you happy with it? If you are then that's all that matters.

    Answer by winterglow at 4:25 AM on Oct. 13, 2012

  • You have to do what you have to do. Tell them to mind their own business when they judge you. I'm sure they have a roof over their head!

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:29 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

  • I personally think it's wrong and wouldn't do it, but you did what you felt like you had to do. When I was a single mom my husband didn't move in with us until we were married.

    Answer by missanc at 7:27 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

  • I do not see it as wrong.

    Answer by louise2 at 7:13 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

  • I lived with my now DH with my son before we married. I actually think it is better to do this when you have a child. It really shows you how the other person is with your child and you can call it off BEFORE you have to go through an expensive divorce.

    Answer by layh41407 at 6:02 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

  • If he is a good guy, and you love him, I would say that you are fine, but if he is not good to your CHILD then and only then will Hell be calling,

    Answer by kimigogo at 5:25 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

  • Do what's best for you and your son.

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 5:08 PM on Oct. 12, 2012

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