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My anniversary of 17 years is today. Just found out my husband has been helping a (friend) old high school girlfriend out. $40,000 dollars and 3 years later my 16 year old finds out. He has missed much with us because he has been with her come to find out. How do you get past this or do you?

He is starting counseling and I will also. Says they never had a sex, but spent plenty of time texting and seeing each other. Thought about it though. She did not know he was married.

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Mildred2

Asked by Mildred2 at 7:56 PM on Oct. 14, 2012 in Relationships

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  • Oh she knew and she probably wanted more from him than to keep her a secret.

    I'm sorry he did this to you and your son.
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 8:02 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • He's given her 40 grand??
    I'd be getting a divorce
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:05 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • I would be gone!
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 8:07 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • She probably dumped his ass and now you're the most important person in his life.

    He's saying, I'm sorry baby ", I was trying to help a friend, we didn't have sex, I swear! They had sex and you know it. A man doesn't give a woman 40,000 and not get something from it.
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 8:08 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • I am truly sorry this is happening though!
    luvmygrandbaby

    Answer by luvmygrandbaby at 8:10 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • She can have him. Not worth your time.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 8:10 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • i'd be adding that $40,000 to my settlement.
    dullscissors

    Answer by dullscissors at 8:14 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • How do you get past this or do you?


    I really don't know.  I think I probably couldn't get past that.  This is a huge betrayal.  Guys don't spend time with women they don't want to have sex with unless they are gay.  To miss things with you and your child is inexcusable. 


    Does the other woman know about you now? 


    I am thinking with a lot of therapy and severing the marriage you can move past this.  How did this all come to fruition?  Did he just confess it to you or did you follow the clues and confront him? 

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 8:16 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • My 16 year old found out via a voice mail on his phone. The other woman does know about me now.
    Mildred2

    Comment by Mildred2 (original poster) at 8:18 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

  • Awe man! That sucks! What an ass hole!
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 8:21 PM on Oct. 14, 2012

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