Just remain calm when she blows up, let her know that you understand her frustration, find ways of helping her learn to express her emotions appropriately. Remember that she's all emotion now without words to express (and any words she does have are drowned out by strong emotions), so it's up to you to help guide her to the appropriate behavior. However, remember also that she doesn't have reliable memory yet, so you do need to be consistent in your discipline and expect a lot of repeating over and over and over again. Allow her to express herself, but teach her how to do it appropriately (hitting pillows instead of people, kicking her feet on the floor instead of you, etc...). But remember that a little empathy can go a long way in letting her know you understand how she feels and she's not alone with her emotions!
at 3:26 PM on Feb. 10, 2009