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My hubby and I have been married for 5 years...together for about 9 total. We have had a fairly great marriage aside from things here and there. One issue has been porno. Over the years he has been caught with it. I am alittle overweight and insecure and this is one issue that has really got to me. To me, it's being unfaithful..maybe not physically but mentally. A year ago he changed, started really working on his relationship with God. He told me that he was sorry for everything and he promised not to do it anymore. We just had our 2nd child one month ago. I was cleaning this morning and found a magazine...porno. I am so upset I can't even think right now. My first instinct is to take the kids and leave him. After all, I did say next time I found it I would leave. My 2nd thought is contact a marriage counselor and work this out before giving up. Since we have two kids. What do you think I should do??
Asked by Anonymous at 9:26 AM on Feb. 10, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Dannee at 9:40 AM on Feb. 10, 2009
IMO....I think your over reacting to the porno. Unless it is kiddy porn. These women are on the screen or on paper. He can not tough them or have sex with them. It's the same as watching porn movies. IMO. Unless this porno thing is putting you in debt or affecting your sex life. I do not think it should be a big issue.IMO
Answer by louise2 at 9:46 AM on Feb. 10, 2009
Look at it this way if he is a good man (father, husband and lover) don't leave him.
Remember someone else will find him and get him, make sure you think this through don't be so quick to throw in the towel, if you care about your appearance do something about it.
Reasons for leaving a husband, Cheating, no more love for him and death. if none apply I would suggest go to a marriage councelor and make it work out for you and him not the kids. (sometimes for the kids but this is between you and him) GL
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 9:58 AM on Feb. 10, 2009
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