Okay, we decided that my dd would not come home for thansgiving because its only four days total, and two days would be traveling, etc. She'll be home for Christmas, plain tickets bought - all good.
BUT she says she met this guy a few weeks ago who's 26, she is 19. Just turned 19 in Sept.
You has been offered to go with her room-mate to her family"s home in the same state OR this guy has asked her to go an additional 10 hour drive to his home in Chicago.
I realize she is 19 and I cannot stop her from going with this guy. I have called and talked to her and told her I do not think, it is a good idea.
What else can i say to her? Thia scares me so much. I told her, ifbyou still know this guy next year, go with him. He says, he wants her to meet his mother. This guy told her he was a Marine, works for Dish network and is going to college also. He is 26, already out of the Marines? Don't they sign a contract for more than 7 years, as a Marine?
Can I call the school counselor to speak with her?
Or because she's an adult - they don't do that.
I am 12 hours away, by car. I hate this and this has we so worried.
The orginal plan was for her to just stay at school.
What would you do?
What can i do to tell her this is such a bad idea?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:48 AM on Oct. 26, 2012 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by NannyB. at 7:05 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by Anonymous at 7:36 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by LoveMyDog at 8:24 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Oh this sucks. I have dealt w/ a similar situation w/ my son. (I will probably be even worse about it when it's my dau!) Unfortunately, you are right about her being an adult now. The hardest part for me about parenting an adult child, is sitting back & waiting for the cards to fall. We can usually guess how things will play out, but it's up to them to live their lives & find out for themselves. We just have to hope that we've trained them well enough to make smart decisions, & pray that they are smart enough to learn from their mistakes.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:55 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by idareyou at 8:24 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
I would just encourage her to go with her friend instead of the BF. It will be just as much travel for her to go with the BF as it would to come home. She will still have two whole days of travel if she goes with the guy.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:31 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by girlwithC at 11:09 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by girlwithC at 11:20 AM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 12:24 PM on Oct. 26, 2012
Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:48 PM on Oct. 26, 2012
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