You have many problems and you should tackle them one at a time. Toddlers don't like change and respond best when it's slow - not an all-at-once thing.
Let her throw a fit when she doesn't get her way. It won't hurt her. Even if she throws up, so what? She needs to learn to handle those strong emotions, to deal with disappointment and anger.
Decide on a punishment method and stick to it. When she bites, punish her. A typical punishment is a 2 minute time-out. Plop her somewhere boring and make her stay there until time is up. And time doesn't start until she is calm. If she pitches a fit that lasts for half hour - let her. Once she's calm, her 2 mintues of punishment start.
If she wants to follow you, great! She has legs and you are harming both you AND HER by carrying her everywhere. Physical activitiy stimulates brain growth. Get that brain growing! Get her legs moving!
Tackle potty training and bottles after that.
at 5:19 PM on Feb. 10, 2009