I have a question for you ladies. I do not get to answer questions on Cafe Mom as often as I would like to, but I do get on to read answers, especially those in the relationship. I notice that when questions are asked many of you automatically jump to divorce. I have seen everything from "sit his shit outside and change the locks" to "hire a lawyer" to "he's dead to you." Quite frankly, I love it and it cracks me up. But I wonder if everyone is really that divorce happy? Mind you the things the guy did are usually pretty heinous. But have you all been in similar situations where you have had to get a divorce? Or if not, would you really be prepared to divorce your husband for these things?
Answer by momto4girzls at 8:26 AM on Nov. 11, 2012
Answer by gdiamante at 7:28 PM on Nov. 10, 2012
Answer by m-avi at 7:28 PM on Nov. 10, 2012
Answer by 3libras at 7:31 PM on Nov. 10, 2012
Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 7:43 PM on Nov. 10, 2012
I think on the whole we are only seeing a small window into the relationship and we all process things differently. Since we all come from different experiences it's easy to just say 'dump him' or to kick him to the curb. I don't think most members follow this advice unless it's what they really feel inside and just wanted a little validation. Some situations described on here are so damaging that I personally can't imagine trying to put such a relationship back together. To what end and for whom? Suggesting that someone get an attorney when they feel that something is wrong is just preparedness. Since most mothers of divorce end up being the custodial parents and not usually the bread winners, it's important to protect your property rights and to not only think about you, but also being able to take care of your kids.
Answer by QuinnMae at 8:51 PM on Nov. 10, 2012
Answer by admckenzie at 5:18 PM on Nov. 11, 2012
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Answer by virginiamama71 at 12:39 PM on Nov. 11, 2012
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