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Can you successfully raise a child in a bubble anymore?

Kind of a s/o of that question below by the anon freaking out about a book someone else bought for their own children (in other words, someone else's choice that has nothing to do with her own kids). Even if you homeschool and set out to intentionally isolate your children from contact with anyone who doesn't agree with you on every issue, can kids really be sheltered anymore?

Even things like political discourse involve topics that used to be taboo to mention on TV. Commercials for everything from penile extension to pole dancing instructional dvd's run at all hours. Those things also appear on magazine ads, billboards, bus ads. Is it practical to raise a child like an ostrich instead of answering their questions as they come along anymore?

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NotPanicking

Asked by NotPanicking at 8:59 PM on Nov. 11, 2012 in Parenting Debate

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  • I guess it's possible, but it would just be to the detriment of the child. I have a relative that homeschooled her two kids. The first one was very accomplished musically. He plays piano, bass, and a few other things. They didn't have cable and he watched very little TV. Because there weren't many other homeschooled kids his age that they were friends with he had little social interaction with kids his age. I think the isolation took it's toll and he has had issues since becoming an adult. He is a very smart young man, but never had to compete for anything (which they don't really allow anymore anyway), so he had low self esteem and a lack of confidence that has cause problems for him. I think he is finally getting more comfortable with himself, but there have been some very difficult times he had to go through to get where he is now.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:15 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • The younger sibling was HS'd for most of elementary school, then when getting to middle school grades he decided he wanted to take some classes at the public school. They allow part time HS kids to take classes and so that's pretty much what he did. He was more of a social child so he didn't have as hard of a time socializing with the other students and making friends. He wasn't raised as isolated as the older sibling. I suppose you can attribute some of that to the type of child they each were (many people have kids that are polar opposites as each other). The younger one now goes to public school full time and the older one is out of college, not using his degree.

    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:19 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • No, Only if you never let them around the t.v. or other people and the only voice they hear is your own.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:49 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • As has been said, if you isolate a child with no TV, Internet, radio, books, or outside social interaction, you might be able to raise him or her in a bubble. However, you better plan on keeping the child in the bubble like a fish in a tank for his or her entire life, since the world would be a very dangerous place for someone who knew nothing of its perils. And if you're going to keep the child like a fish in a bowl, then why not just get a guppy instead?
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 9:51 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • And if you're going to keep the child like a fish in a bowl, then why not just get a guppy instead?



    ^^^^So agree!!
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 10:03 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • If you've managed to keep your child in a bubble from the world, you aren't successful. You may have achieved your goal but you've failed as a parent to prepare your child to be anything but a child in a bubble.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 11:09 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • I haven't seen the question that you're referring to, but I would like to speak up a bit about the homeschooling. We homeschool because we do a better job academically than the local public schools. It has zero to do with isolating our children or trying to keep them away from the outside world.

    ...now to go dig for the question you're mentioning LOL
    Mom-2-3-Girlz

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 11:11 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • We homeschool because we do a better job academically than the local public schools. It has zero to do with isolating our children or trying to keep them away from the outside world.

    I never said it did.
    NotPanicking

    Comment by NotPanicking (original poster) at 11:14 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • Yeah, I just saw found the book you were talking about. She's a little nuts.
    Mom-2-3-Girlz

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 11:25 PM on Nov. 11, 2012

  • I suppose if you really were intentional, you could, but really, should you?
    theMOMmission

    Answer by theMOMmission at 12:30 AM on Nov. 12, 2012

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