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how do i go about talking to a principle?

i have been having some problems with the school my kids go to and its cause of the principle i wanna know how to talk to her with out being a smart A@@ or itch lol cause i know if she says something wrong im going to go off on her and it will start all kinds of crap lol so does anyone know how to talk to her nicely without starting crap?

 
wendy232425

Asked by wendy232425 at 7:43 AM on Feb. 11, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • There are a few 'key' factors when speaking with school officials. Never raise your voice...as soon as you do they discount everything you say. Do not make threats or accusations..as soon as you do YOU"RE the problem and out of control (in their eyes). Do not let them just sweep you under the rug. Everytime you speak with someone write down the date, the time and the name of the person you spoke with and a brief synopsis of the conversation. Know the procedure of how to contact your school board. If the school cannot or will not work towards resolving the problem do not be afraid of contacting your board. Never threaten to go to the board and not do it...you become a joke to them. I have been dealing with schools for 25 years as a parent, let them know you are a serious, non hysterical parent who demands action..without being overbearing, loud, or threatening.
    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 8:37 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • Yeah you just go in and act like a mother and write down the questions you have or concerns and ask them how they plan to change the things bothering you. You have to treat it like a business meeting and remember if you act like a smart ass they wont take you or your concerns seriously. I am sure you can put your smart ass hat away for the sake of your child?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:45 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • i thought of writing down the questions so i wouldn't forget them
    wendy232425

    Answer by wendy232425 at 7:51 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • Think of kids whose family's you know who've had difficulty with the principal before, I doubt it's only you in the whole school and try connecting with them. Also try googling your states education dept and federal dept of educa. too and read into both of them for guidance. Wrightslaw.com is good for different state's info and Martindale Hubble or Hubbard.com digging in your states education lawyers and their websites also gives ideas. Be very very careful, if principal is tenured getting them to see your side can be tough especially if more you know love the principal than not.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:52 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • i know this is the first year shes been at this school and i heard shes a nasty one
    wendy232425

    Answer by wendy232425 at 7:53 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • Ok well at least your not alone. Can your partner, hubby go with you to talk to her? If it's bullying tell her directly or email whatever through a secretary that you need a meeting with the other kids family there too. Whatever your problem is can your guidance counselor help? Some are fantastic actually. Talk to parents who've been there a while on how they've dealt with her.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:02 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • Good Luck! You can get your point across and put her in her place, without looking like a crazy Mom-
    And remember your kids are watching and learning from you-
    And if you have to go There! Make sure your kids are not around
    Goldenbrowny

    Answer by Goldenbrowny at 9:00 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • You know, she just might be a nasty itch, but don't go in there like you think she's going to act like that. Maybe the people you talked to didn't have the right attitude, either. Go in organized and calm and try to stay focused on your issues, not her personality. You'll probably have some success.

    Oh, and as another poster said, take notes--time, date, who, what was said/done.
    mama_k228

    Answer by mama_k228 at 10:02 AM on Feb. 11, 2009

  • Don't go there... acting ghetto only makes you look uneducated... I'm going to "go off on her" What kind of example are you setting for your children... I do not know any well educated or successful people that "go off". Please, do your kids a favor, act like an adult, voice your concerns and find a solution... and get some class while you are at it!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:04 AM on Feb. 11, 2009