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To start off, I have one child, and I am pregnant with my second. Very excited, by the way...
I met the love of my life when the father of my daughter (she's one and a half), left me. I was 10 weeks pregnant, and stranded in a strange town without anyone to help me. I was only 16.
A nice family took me in for the entire pregnancy. They helped me and did everything that they possibly could to make my life bearable. The person who rented the house had a 16 yr old nephew, and we became great friends. We fell in "love" or lust, and started sleeping together. He was truly my best friend. He was the only one there that I didn't think I could live without.
Well, 7 months pass, and we have been officially dating for awhile now. He was there through my daughter's delivery, and posed as daddy in all of our pictures. He was very upset when I told him that he could not be listed as her father on the birth certificate, because I felt that it would be too dishonest. Needless to say, he stuck around through everything, and he was a fantastic father, even at 16/17.
Now, fast-foward. We planned our second child, but things were not fantastic within our relationship. Because I still felt and acted young, I did not want to completely settle down, i guess. But I also loved him, and I did not want to admit that I was feeling like this. I told him that I wanted to let him live his life without us, at least for the remainder of this pregnancy. I wanted to give him the freedom he did not get because of me. So in turn, I would also be free. Selfishly, I didnt want to forever let him go... Just for awhile, I guess. (so stupid and childish)
He sat on our steps and cried. He begged me not to leave.
I began dating another guy, recklessly sleeping with him, and emotionally neglecting my parental duties. I realized that this man was not who I loved. I realized that he was bad for me and my family and we broke it off.
Now, four months later, I am desperatly hoping that my unborn child's father (the love of my life) will forgive me and try again... I needed to see the stupidity of my desicion. and I have. I really have... I am so sorry for everything that I put him through, and the pain I caused my family. I was so selfish...
If you were him, would you forgive me?
Note: I am due to have his son in 8 weeks.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:57 PM on Nov. 13, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 3:04 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by virginiamama71 at 3:05 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Infidelity is very hard for most men to forgive.....but you won't know what he will do unless you go to him with the same story you told us...we all make mistakes, but sometimes male egos get in the way of such a reconciliation, hoping his is not that big and he can find it in his heart to forgive you..but you got to communicate this to him, not to us....
Answer by older at 3:46 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by Ballad at 3:54 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by sarasmommy777 at 4:07 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by KristiS11384 at 4:11 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 4:13 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
I don't know. It would all depend on if he still feels that same love for you and if he thinks he can ever trust you again. He must want it for it to happen though and he has to be able to let the past stay in the past. You should get tested if you were sleeping with the other guy before you try to move forward with the one you love (if he is willing), as well as to check for anything before the birth of your next child. I hope it all works out.
Answer by QuinnMae at 4:44 PM on Nov. 13, 2012
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