In regards to my step daughter, not my boyfriend. When we have her, I look at her as my own. Heck, when it comes up in conversation I even say, "my daughter" when talking about her. When she's with me, I'm her mom for that time.
I'm concerned not only about Thanksgiving but being around him parents in general. What I mean about coming before is if I can tell them not to give her something or not to let her do something..along those lines. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he said says that I'm her mom when shes with us. Ok, I get that but what if his mom and I disagree about something in regards to her? What if she pulls that "you're just her step mom" bull shit?
No I don't think so since they probably know her longer than you. It would be a total insult to tell her Grandparents what they can & cannot give her unless it is obviously a drink or a smoke! LOL JK. It's common sense really. You may come off as a real Snot! Just be nice & enjoy the dinner. You may be over thinking all this & overcompensating. Keep calm & carry on!
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 1:36 PM on Nov. 15, 2012
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Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 1:39 PM on Nov. 15, 2012
If your fiance is around I would defer to him and if he isn't and obviously her mother isn't around, then you would be the next responsible party.
Answer by QuinnMae at 1:40 PM on Nov. 15, 2012
Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 1:42 PM on Nov. 15, 2012
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Answer by FreeForAll at 1:46 PM on Nov. 15, 2012
Yeah, I see that as over-stepping your boundaries. Saying, something like "we don't give her pacis" might be better but, you can't tell them what they can & can't do with their own grandbaby, in their own house. I mean, do you want their to be peace or not? If so, you need to stop acting so controlling.
Answer by 3libras at 1:48 PM on Nov. 15, 2012