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I tried speaking with the girl's mother the other day regarding our children probably having sex. Is it my cup of tea to talk about? No. They are 16, these things are bound to happen. I have had sex talks with my son and he has come to me since he has started dating this girl. He told me that she wants to have sex with him. He told her that he did not have condoms and that he was still a virgin. She wanted to have sex still but he told her that he wasn't ready to be a father. While I am proud my son took a stance against pressures from his gf I am also very worried that her mother has not had a good talk with her or that she simply doesn't want to take the advice. I have spoken to her mother about this. She said that her daughter does not have sex and that she is too young for this sort of talk. Okay, she's in denial. It's not this girl's fault that her mom refuses to see her as a young adult who may face theses challenges. Am I overstepping my boundaries in sitting down with both of them and have a sex talk?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:36 PM on Nov. 19, 2012 in General Parenting
That's a tough one. You've already approached the mother & got shot down. You do communicate well with your son & already know how her mother feels on this issue. I wouldn't talk to the girl if I were you. You will just have to trust your son to be responsible. GL
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Answer by kmath at 7:03 PM on Nov. 19, 2012
While her Mother should be able to talk openly with her daughter about sex, its not your role to take it upon yourself to do it for her, even though she is dating your son. If I was you I would surely be stepping up your talks with you son though, thats your main concern. I wish parents would realise they are doing their children a disservice not openly communicating about these things, and seems like its always parents that are so sure their child isnt having sex that have the children who are instigating sex, people need to wake up, its part of a parents role.
Answer by Princess_s21 at 10:18 PM on Nov. 19, 2012
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