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Kinda feeling mean for what I said to 3 yr old dd this morning...

I had to take all 3 kids to daycare and was mad at my three yr old so I said to the sitter , whom I have known 7 yrs, not to worry I would forget my kids for a little bit in a joking way. Well when I went to leave my dd came to the door and said mommy please don't forget me I love you so I feel bad bc I feel like she will be worried about it all day

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mamide02ninas

Asked by mamide02ninas at 11:34 AM on Nov. 21, 2012 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Did you reassure her? That's what I would say to do, on the spot, once you realize that a child took you seriously & felt anxious as a result. I think that's pretty much what you can do--acknowledge her worry (how it makes sense that she got nervous having overheard that.) Acknowledge that you said something confusing because you were feeling X, that you shouldn't have said it & you wish you hadn't, and that you will pick her up & would never forget her, even if you are upset. It's as simple as acknowledging you wish you'd said, "I'm so frustrated this morning!"
    Just make amends when needed & respond to expressed or evident anxiety whenever you're presented with it. Not in an "Oh, I was just kidding!" way, but in a way that takes her concern seriously, takes responsibility for causing it & gives explicit reassurance. This way, you are modeling something important for her.
    You can do it in retrospect, too, if you didn't before.
    girlwithC

    Answer by girlwithC at 4:43 PM on Nov. 21, 2012

  • We all say things we don't mean. Be more careful next time
    aem8776

    Answer by aem8776 at 1:44 AM on Nov. 24, 2012

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