Decision Time

What did you see on the Empowering Parents site that leaves you unsure of what to think?

I'm not really sure what the question is here....

Where is getting the money from? Have you asked him for an explanation of why he is doing this when he knows it is wrong?

I'm also wondering what you saw on some website that is making you question telling your son no drugs/smoking???

Sounds like you need to control his money, so he can't easily buy more. Let him know he has broken your trust and needs to rebuild it. Watch him like a hawk. Get to the bottom of who he is hanging out with that smokes pot and ditch those friends. Also let him know it is illegal and won't be tolerated in any circumstances, and if you find it again he will have to answer to the police and court system.
You said young teen, I'm betting that he's not driving yet and doesn't have a job, so the above won't be that hard to manage. If he is driving and has a job it's a little tougher, but you still can follow through on demanding it not go on in your house, and if he continues, he will learn from the legal consequences.

All of that is pretty much what was said on Empowering Parents. I hope it helps. GL

i agree with tessiedawg - he shouldn't have any free time with or without friends. he's lost trust with you. he'll need to gain that back before he's off probation,so to say...