I went to a parent-teacher conference, and while she had good things to say about him, she also had plenty of not-so-good. One of the things she pointed out was that he is the only child that chooses to roll on the carpet at carpet time, and that they pretty much have to have a para-pro sitting beside him to keep him on task. She said he is a bright child, and that when he *does* listen, the things he says in response to questions are profound for a child his age.
She had plenty of questions for me, such as what we tried at home, and if I knew why his attitude was one of, "I don't care" at the very beginning, but changed drastically within a few days, and cried when I told her about his treatment at our local head start. After hearing how they labeled him a problem, bad, etc, and basically just put him in time outs all day, she said she completely understood. Her theory was that he finally realized he wasn't going to just stay in trouble, that someone was actually going to listen and help him(before you ream me out for not addressing this when he was in pre-k, let me tell you that the ONLY "conferences" I got were yelled at me through my car window in the parent pick up line in front of 30 other parents. The director did not care, the teacher did not care, the para-pro who was doing all this yelling did not care. It was ridiculous.) Now, he tells her every day that he loves her, and he REALLY tries hard because he wants to please her, but he's still having trouble concentrating and sitting still- every little thing is a big distraction.
At the direction and suggestions of his teacher I've scheduled him for an evaluation. They sent home a packet with questionnaires for 2 caregivers and 2 teachers, plus they asked for handwriting samples, a letter from his primary teacher, and his latest progress report of report card. Does this seem comprehensive to you? The thought of my little boy on meds that turn him into a zombie(this is what I was told my whole life, and I've never known anyone on medication for ADD or ADHD) or 'change' him somehow brings me to tears. I feel like I've failed him somehow. I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing, or guidance, or something. Plus I needed to vent.
Oh, and I just wanted to add that my son is very sweet and loving, and he is never malicious or hateful. He is a handful, but NOT a 'bad kid'.
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 11:18 AM on Nov. 27, 2012
Why does everyone automatically think ADHD meds turn you into a zombie??? I've worked with HS kids for years and the one on meds are zombies... they actually like the meds & how they work. But meds are only a tiny piece of the puzzle... get him eval'ed... go from there. Remember... early innervation is so important!! I've worked with kids dxed in HS... so hard fro them!!
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I also don't plan on medicating my child unless it is the ONLY thing in the world that will help him. I don't think his "problems" are severe enough to need medication, I think he just needs patience, understanding, and a few tricks for when he needs a little help.
PS - He attends Head Start as well as a private Preschool at our church and while his Head Start teacher is very kind towards him, I do see a major difference in the way that Head Start lables him as "needs help" vs. the private preschool that has actually taken the time to sit down with me and my husband said has said "these are the things we've come up with that we think might help him" and quite literally gave me a list of activities they do with him when they see his energy building. Link Here
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