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Do u judge people for having lots of kids

I have a 6th child on the way and it seemed like today at wal-mart people were just glaring at me the whole friggin time, its not like they were rolling around on teh ground like animals. For how many kids I have i'd say they behave really well in a store for the most part. Why all the hate?

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mom.mommy.mama

Asked by mom.mommy.mama at 1:03 PM on Nov. 29, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • I have 5. Sometimes I feel judged, but most times people compliment and say how amazed they are. Saying how they wouldn't be able to do it themselves. I think most people just wonder how we are able to manage considering they may be having a time at it, managing their 2 or 3.
    keisha613

    Answer by keisha613 at 1:07 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • I do if people keep having them when they're on welfare
    If you can't afford them without getting PA,you shouldn't TTC
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:08 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • It's not really "judging", to me it's like "damn, how do they deal with that many kids???? I'd go insane."
    3libras

    Answer by 3libras at 1:08 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • Meh ... To each, his own.
    theMOMmission

    Answer by theMOMmission at 1:11 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • I have a problem when all those kids become taxpayers & the government's problem.
    anestheticsex

    Answer by anestheticsex at 1:11 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • Most of the time when I see a female with a lot of kids I just think she has a daycare.
    But people who have more then 3 kids now day are not normaly seen much that's all. Most people can't afford more the 3.
    Unless you are a Military family and didn't have to pay the hospital bill for all those kids. Or your DH has a really good job or you are rich.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 1:13 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • im with 3libras on this one. my neighbor has 5 kids (ive posted about them a few times) and she is a single mother, plus the dad is not in the picture at all. i dont know how she keeps from ripping all her hair out. i barely have my sanity left with my 3.

    also, i try not to judge the welfare/pa big families. just because they're getting help now doesnt mean they abuse or live off the system, it could simply mean they fell into hard times.
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 1:15 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • My kids aren't tax payers problems I'm not on public assistance, luckily we are pretty good at saving money and being cost effective and hubby has a good job and i have a good job i only work weekends but the pay is good.

    even though i'm not on assistance I don't hate people who are though life gets rough sometimes and sometimes people don't plan for things to turn out the way they do
    mom.mommy.mama

    Comment by mom.mommy.mama (original poster) at 1:15 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • We met a couple that they both were twins. They had two sets of twins. So four kids two pregnancies. I understand when things happen like that. And oops I did plan on getting pregnant type things.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 1:17 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • Maybe I shouldn't take offense and they are just looking strangely liek you said because a lot of people couldn't do it or don't want to raise that many or because you don't see a lot of people with more than two kids these days.
    mom.mommy.mama

    Comment by mom.mommy.mama (original poster) at 1:17 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

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