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when is the age to talk to your kid about sex

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Asked by lyndieanne at 8:56 PM on Nov. 29, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • About 3 years before you think you should, otherwise they'll have already heard it.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:13 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • DS and I have been talking about it for a couple years now. If he asks questions I answer them in a way he can understand.

    Answer by kmath at 9:34 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • If your child is nine I would say that you should have started the preliminaries already. If your child is a girl, you might want to give her that talk soon. If you mean relationships, then as soon as you see any change of interest, and I mean noticing that the other sex is cute or interesting rather than stupid or gross.

    Answer by Dardenella at 11:42 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • If you think that your daughter aged 16 knows nothing abouit sex, pregnancy or childbirth youi are fooling yourself. If you don't give her REAL information she's going to believe all of the crap she hears from her peers at school. This includes such nuggets as "you can't get pregnant the first time" and "you can't get pregnant if you have sex standing up". Wake up and do something about this NOW preferably before you become a grandmother.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:51 AM on Nov. 30, 2012

  • When they begin puberty is a good time IMO. Before that I would answer questions as needed, but the "talk" came when my oldest began having bodily changes taking place that he didn't understand and was too worried about to ask me.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 9:02 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • What I have done with my kids is give them the age appropriate talks..
    When they were 5 I told them only what a 5 year old needed to hear..more than that, and it would be teaching them out of their comfort zone.
    I have always told them whatever they wanted to hear. I felt if they are asking, rather than have somebody else putting things in their minds it would be better to hear it from me. My husband on the other hand, his mother gave them a book on the birds and bees rather than teach them! I just would never do that with my boys

    Answer by madmueller at 10:19 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • I disagree. Knowing about sex doesn't make children want to try it. The children who get a decent sex education are those who wait longest to lose their virginity because they know haw serious it is. The ones at risk are those who only get sketchy information or none at all and are driven by curiosity.

    I also think you are fooling yourself if you think you know all of her thoughts ...

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:17 AM on Dec. 1, 2012

  • when they start asking

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:57 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • About actual sex, or body changes and puberty? I would say talking to them about 4th or 5th grade about body changes and stuff would be about right and about actual sexual intercourse sometime during the 6th grade.


    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:03 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

  • talk about little things here and there as they grow up- use stuff on TV and the radio to start conversations, also things that are going on with their friends and such.
    I can't say my kids and I have ever had A "talk" we talk about things all the time...

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 9:04 PM on Nov. 29, 2012

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