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I need some help ladies maybe some encouragement. I have been with SO for 8 years now and we have a 5 yo. We've had a really tough year (car broke down, 20% pay cut, home broken into a couple of times) and it's hit DH really hard. He's been depressed for the last 6 months. I told him to go to the dr, he has. When his medication wasn't working for him I suggested he should call his dr and talk about it, he said to wait for the following month when he had his scheduled appt. The dr upped his medication and it's been a couple of weeks and I'm not seeing much of an improvement. It's effected his relation with our son and with me. Every week they increase his hours at work, he's now working 60-65 hours a week. (he's on salary btw) He won't say no to them and they are part of the problem because of the stress they put on him.
Our son cries bc he only sees his dad for a few min in the morning and usually he's grouchy. He's been distant with me, he doesn't call or text during the day anymore. He doesn't seem too interested in anything. I just don't know what to do anymore. I've tried. I've asked him to take time off of work but he keeps blowing me off about it. Not even to see my brother graduate from bootcamp (he joined the Marines). I've told my DH how this effects our DS and our relationship, he just gives an empty apology. I feel so alone. He doesn't hold my hand, stand close to me, or give me any type of affection anymore. I know it's all part of the depression, I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm giving him my everything and I';m not getting that from him. I don't know how to help him. What do I do. He doesn't want to talk to a counselor. He's never really been the type of guy who talks about his feelings. Any suggestions as to where to go from here??
Asked by Anonymous at 11:03 PM on Dec. 1, 2012 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:50 AM on Dec. 2, 2012
Lets switch this around a bit. You sure he is not having an affair? Those signs could be that too. You sure he is take pills or just telling you he is.
Distant, not affectionate, works a lot. Could be affair too.
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