my oldest son's dad and i seperated about 4 years ago now.. and i moved on an got married and what not.. he moved away about 3 years ago.. he lived in washington for a few months then went to oregon then to another part of oregon.. and what not, so for the past 3 and half years he hasn't really been a part of my son's life.. he calls once in awhile.. he doesn't call on holidays nor birthdays.. he bearly remembers he knows nothing about what school or sports he's involved in.. soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo i get the news today that he's coming back to cali..
how do i feel? not happy i feel like he's coming back to start drama.. he's demanding that he have him on christmas day however.. i knew nothing of him coming back and i've got plans and i'm sorry if i'm a little reluctant to just hand my son over to someone who has not been there for the last 3 year... my son is 6 do i leave that up to my son to decide if he wants to go with his dad or do i make the decision which i have already made!??
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Answer by baconbits at 3:50 PM on Dec. 3, 2012
Sounds more like a sperm donor than a daddy. Any man can become a father, but he hasn't been a daddy in over 3 years. What about child support? I would do everything the legal way from here on out. Get custody & visitation established & child support too. If he truly wants to make the effort, then great. I would allow it, but slowly & cautiously. Christmas is meant for family time, so if you want to be gracious enough to invite him over for a visit, then more power to ya. But don't let him make you feel guilty if he waits til the next day. Afterall, he's waited 3 yrs!
Answer by mrsmom110 at 4:41 PM on Dec. 3, 2012